My children are in another state with their father for part of the summer. They haven't spent time with him prior to this for years, by their choice. They have maintained contact with him though.
My kids and I are pretty open with each other. My son is 16 and has been clean and sober for just over a year and a half. My daughter is 14. I have their email passwords and they know this. Right now, I'm not sure if I'm glad or not about it. I just read some emails from my son to his friend. In the first one, he is telling her how stupid smoking is and I am so proud of him for telling her she should stop. In the next email he is talking about getting drunk with his father. Apparently my ex has been drinking regularly with my 16 year old to the point of them both getting stumbling drunk. This is one of the disturbing things I discovered within 3 emails over the past week to his friend.
I have called and left messages on all of the phones but haven't heard back yet.
I am seriously considering telling my ex that he needs to bring my kids back by next weekend or that I'm going to call the police on him. I kept the emails from my son to his friend, just in case.
What would you recommend that won't permenantly alienate my son from me? I cannot allow this to continue.
Thank you for your help